LDRs

7/2/26

You will probably engage in an LDR at some point – a Long Distance Relationship.

This IS NOT chatting with three Filipinas simultaneously.  That comes BEFORE the LDR.  An LDR is a commitment.  Trust.  It is an actual, mutual, one-on-one, “we are in this together” long-term relationship.  If you are not ready / not capable of this level of commitment, stay away from dating sites.

An LDR is “an electronic engagement,” you might say.  Both of you have made a commitment to be there for the other.  To provide whatever help you can.  To answer as soon as humanly possible.  On good days / bad days / holidays / every day you are there for the other.

LDRs take time.  It is an investment.  During the course of your LDR, life will happen.  For us, a sister found herself trapped in a horrible OFW job.  A brother was despondent over tumors growing from a car crash ten years earlier.  A relative was drinking way too much.  A typhoon took most of a roof and two walls away.  One house needed to be condemned, torn down, and a new house built.

The LDR will put real-life pressures on you.  Your response is critical.

She will learn what kind of person you are from your response.  Likewise, these pressures will reveal her character too.  An LDR is a good thing.  An LDR is a spotlight.  An LDR is a microscope.

I wish you success in finding a great Filipina wife.  It is not that hard!  If you are looking online, you can expect an LDR to develop.  Make the most of this time.  Learn her daily schedule.  Make space in your schedule during her most convenient hours.  Answer / respond immediately when she reaches out.  You can be a great strength and companion without being in bed with her.  God will bless this work.

Shortly after meeting Lyn, I created a second Facebook profile.  It was quickly taken over by Filipinos … who I learned are the global champions of messaging. 

This is another window into Filipino family life.  When you get invited to join the family GC (the group chat shared by all family members, from young to old, from Hong Kong to Dubai) – when you get invited to join the family GC you have been accepted as a dotted-line family member.  It’s not marriage, but it’s def a step in that direction.

Our LDR was a wonderful experience for both of us. We learned to work with each other, share honestly, and communicate clearly. I pray you have a similar happy experience.